In a domestic violence situation, others may label you as an aggressor because you did not call the police first. If this is your first offense, it could be a wake-up call about your anger or your relationship.
Anger management may help you avoid future charges and help with your present charges.
How to know when you’re too angry
According to the American Psychology Association, some people are naturally hotheaded. While background and environment play a role in a person’s ability to handle anger, sometimes it starts at birth. In other cases, people with anxiety and depression may not know how to express their emotions except through anger.
If you fear you have an anger problem, there are psychological tests available to measure the intensity of your anger, how quick you are to anger and what coping mechanisms you have to battle your temper. If you find yourself fighting or out of control, you may need help.
When to seek counseling for anger
Once anger starts to impact your personal relationships or you have charges against you, you may consider counseling. Psychologists have various techniques to help you control your anger and to relax you. For some people, assertiveness training helps. Many do not know how to express themselves assertively without coming across as aggressive. While you cannot eliminate your anger, the goal of anger management is to teach you how to control it in a healthy way.
If you have no prior criminal history, seeking anger management counseling may help your case. Sometimes, the prosecution and judges will accept counseling as an alternate resolution.