When your partner charges you with domestic violence, this can have a seriously negative effect on your life, but what happens when you are unsure about the nature of some behaviors? The Arizona Coalition To End Sexual and Domestic Violence notes that emotional abuse is a recognized form of domestic violence, including intimidation. This tactic can impact either individual in the relationship, their children and their immediate families.
Signs of intimidation
One of the main features of intimidation is the desire for control. One person in the relationship wants control of a variety of factors in the relationship, including:
- Financial decisions
- Religious worship
- Medical choices, such as whether to vaccinate their kids
Because this desire for control over choices most couples make together when a relationship is healthy, the intimidated individual may eventually give in and relinquish control because it is too difficult or emotionally damaging to constantly argue.
If your spouse has accused you of domestic violence through intimidation, it is important that you understand how to define the term, especially if the charge is part of a divorce hearing. Intimidation usually includes the intent to humiliate the person who brings the charge, so your spouse may have to prove that you intended to humiliate him or her, as the burden of proof is usually on the person pressing the charge. Texts, videos and witness accounts are often used for this purpose.
Intimidation often has many facets, including threats of physical harm. While not all types of this behavior are obviously abusive, there is usually a fine line that makes defining certain acts as abusive difficult.